tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post8009006874311743375..comments2023-12-23T08:37:50.433-05:00Comments on hula seventy: better than everything in the skyUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger80125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-49831219267845459882010-04-11T20:36:51.620-04:002010-04-11T20:36:51.620-04:00I'm so glad you put this on your list of '...I'm so glad you put this on your list of 'best posts' or I might not have found it. Someone else commented "real is good" and I second that...it's good and it helps. Bless you for this honest and lovely piece.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14460126734157555444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-87519406148565180762009-09-17T16:40:39.935-04:002009-09-17T16:40:39.935-04:00I realize that this was written a year ago. But -...I realize that this was written a year ago. But - I found it today. And it's JUST what I needed to read today. Today, the day that my son has sat in time out for much of the day - sometimes at hour stretches (I am not a horrible mother - I simply refuse to begin the timer until he's calm, otherwise, what's the point?). I have wanted to walk out, to give up, to give in. But I know, I have Him. And he'll come home. And everything will be okay. I just needed you to remind me of that today. <br /><br />Thank you.<br /><br />And congratulations. Beautiful. I hope you two have many more beautiful (even if they are tough!) years!sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18201540282735408617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-43410738552993296042008-11-25T10:06:00.000-05:002008-11-25T10:06:00.000-05:00I just found your blog through Ward's, via PoppyTa...I just found your blog through Ward's, via PoppyTalk. This was the most honest real gut wrenching piece. Beautiful. Happy belated 14th and many many many more. I had my 21st this year.<BR/>Cheers<BR/>RitaRita Vindedzishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07826040324599612057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-47825199999437624682008-11-10T17:40:00.000-05:002008-11-10T17:40:00.000-05:00i love you. i can't even express how much better ...i love you. i can't even express how much better you are at expressing what being married feels like! thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-55947881499037086822008-11-07T16:53:00.000-05:002008-11-07T16:53:00.000-05:00beautfully written. my dh and I had a similar mome...beautfully written. my dh and I had a similar moment a few years ago when we both realized at the very moment we were walking with the kids into the mall foodcourt that it was our anniversary. It snuck up on us both--which is the way you want it to go if it's going to happen at all!--and we had to laugh instead of cry. There was a time we would never have forgotten such a thing. My dh gave me a squeeze and sang a bit of "our song" to me, the one we sing when we've just seen how unromantic and disappointing real life can be: "even though we ain't got money, I'm so in love with you honey..."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-15433491163509482722008-09-25T08:57:00.000-04:002008-09-25T08:57:00.000-04:00I love the way you get things straight - the getti...I love the way you get things straight - the getting mad, the silly socks on sale,the wishing it was not so, the loving that it is so. And it is inspiration to live close to the heart, married or not married. Thank you very much for writing this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-51609951899905544012008-09-23T12:06:00.000-04:002008-09-23T12:06:00.000-04:00That was beautiful. And it stopped me from doing m...That was beautiful. And it stopped me from doing my own wallowing. Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-38664269820806374862008-09-17T14:09:00.000-04:002008-09-17T14:09:00.000-04:00I cried. Thanks for your honesty and beauty. Happy...I cried. Thanks for your honesty and beauty. Happy anniversary!Jonohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18369384520952464254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-49811567152632891552008-09-15T17:09:00.000-04:002008-09-15T17:09:00.000-04:00okay so i'm a little late to the party here, but t...okay so i'm a little late to the party here, but this is amazing. and so right on. i'm not even married yet, but this year i spent my third anniversary on a day long bus trip/march to iowa in support of workers/immigrant rights at a meatpacking plant. while my sweetie was working in LA. not what i had imagined at all. but that is our life right now. the everyday, as you say. and it is still wonderful, even if it's nowhere near what we had envisioned. happy anniversary, andrea. i hope this year is wonderful and as perfect as it can be.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01710106273998131443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-5322398941841651832008-09-13T18:08:00.000-04:002008-09-13T18:08:00.000-04:00My family had a particularly rough week. Thanks f...My family had a particularly rough week. Thanks for this.Liz K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00183466318191307856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-64713922967853101102008-09-13T15:56:00.000-04:002008-09-13T15:56:00.000-04:00girl. amen!you are so point ON!i have to say, that...girl. <BR/>amen!<BR/>you are so point ON!<BR/><BR/>i have to say, that i only see you as total glamfab in my eyes. taupe or not.<BR/>you rock so much.<BR/>in so many ways.<BR/><BR/>and, as kristine said, this is the stuff of life. <BR/>this is the stuff that connects us and makes us not think there is something "wrong" with us. of course, i still think there is something wrong with me. lol<BR/><BR/>happy anniversary of your love. <BR/>aaaaand so glad ezra is feeling better.<BR/><BR/>lovelovelove to you, sister. xoKathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18128785215358505300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-16320273174271945202008-09-11T15:17:00.000-04:002008-09-11T15:17:00.000-04:00this is so good...i love the contrast of standing ...this is so good...i love the contrast of standing in front of God & then standing in front of the sock display...so brilliant & such a good visual for what our everydays are...we had our 10th anniversary this year & one of us said '10 years married' & the other one said '& 8 of them were good' & we both laughed cause it's so true & really, that's a pretty good percentage:)...happy anniversary!emilyruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10064321946850419544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-10004550853017120982008-09-10T12:19:00.000-04:002008-09-10T12:19:00.000-04:00Happy anniversary! Thank you so much for this ,it ...Happy anniversary! Thank you so much for this ,it made me cry,laugh and sigh.<BR/>I have been married 4 years and that youve totally inspired and reminded of why i said yes in the first place.<BR/>Its full of amazing highs and some lows but even in the darkest night theres hope of light at dawn...<BR/>What a truely beautiful post,you have a writing gift my dear.<BR/>happy anniversary yet again.<BR/>kisses,<BR/>MarianMarianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11039929946026207864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-8942962358064152032008-09-09T20:28:00.000-04:002008-09-09T20:28:00.000-04:00Coming out of lurk-dom to thank you for such a bea...Coming out of lurk-dom to thank you for such a beautifully written post. So touching, so lovely, so true.mama chellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00765948349299313951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-77146711384236142862008-09-09T19:27:00.000-04:002008-09-09T19:27:00.000-04:00hula,you had me laughing. you had me crying.you g...hula,<BR/>you had me laughing. you had me crying.<BR/><BR/>you got the goods, girl.<BR/><BR/>love, jenJen Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07381492657277282138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-69070861052716736042008-09-09T17:40:00.000-04:002008-09-09T17:40:00.000-04:00luv this posting! luv. luv.luv this posting! luv. luv.Normahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01354148517345195848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-16359439063384050672008-09-09T16:54:00.000-04:002008-09-09T16:54:00.000-04:00wow so real, so true, so honest and parts funny ev...wow so real, so true, so honest and parts funny even. life. crazy messy boring mixed up life. this post is awesome. hope you did get to feel a little special and shiny maybe a day or two later though. and not in taupe.Kristin Zecchinellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03669097079491245666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-87451830958197911232008-09-09T14:40:00.000-04:002008-09-09T14:40:00.000-04:00oh. so lovely...so true. we've hit 12 - but no k...oh. so lovely...so true. we've hit 12 - but no kiddos in the mix yet. such a wonderful post. hope ezra is loads better. thank you for taking the time to email me about dancing too - i go to my first class tonight - i'll report back ;)jenifer lakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13601146205381914447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-61918703264534025662008-09-09T11:25:00.000-04:002008-09-09T11:25:00.000-04:00This is so what marriage and real love is. Stickin...This is so what marriage and real love is. Sticking together when you are bored, hot, sick, dirty, old [in body and or spirit] and just plain tired. This is it! It is also the lighter moments of popcorn shared while movie watching, little glances, shared joy in your children, building something together, working hard together. Happy 14th. I think you are a great couple.And they're right. This is the Good Stuff.the kitschen tablehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14101083625165720120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-4471518713079162992008-09-09T10:48:00.000-04:002008-09-09T10:48:00.000-04:00this is the stuff that keeps ya'll together for an...this is the stuff that keeps ya'll together for another 14 years. it sucks, it really sucks sometimes. then, it's great! really great and then comes euphoria.The Paste-UP Mechanichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16652315330638917048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-53830856575617562922008-09-09T01:10:00.000-04:002008-09-09T01:10:00.000-04:00Gorgeous! I appreciate your writing and sharing s...Gorgeous! I appreciate your writing and sharing so much. It's nice to see the reality of someone I admire. Makes me realize I'm kind of unremarkable. Thanks. <BR/><BR/>I've nominated you for the Brillante Premio award on my blog. It's not much but I really do love to visit your blog. I re-visit the guerilla art post every couple of months and it can still make me cry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-19596041588868115172008-09-09T00:36:00.000-04:002008-09-09T00:36:00.000-04:00This is lovely.I am not sure you know the psycholo...This is lovely.<BR/>I am not sure you know the psychologist, John Gottman. He is a very respected marriage researcher from Seattle. His research has shown that it the daily, small gestures that create the happy, long term relationships. You seem to be living this. Here is a summary a few of his findings: <BR/>_____<BR/><BR/>Nurturing Friendship in Marriage<BR/><BR/> <BR/>Good marriages seem rare these days, but a leading marriage expert says it's not complicated—or even necessarily difficult—to make a marriage last. Friendship, says John Gottman, is at the core of a strong marriage.<BR/><BR/>Friendship between couples means they "know each other intimately" and "are well versed in each other's likes, dislikes, personality quirks, hopes and dreams," Gottman says in his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (published by Crown).<BR/><BR/>Based on twenty-five years of research, The Seven Principles also says couples in good marriages "have an abiding regard for each other," express this esteem in many ways large and small, respect each other, and enjoy one another's company. Gottman has also found that the quality of a married couple's friendship is the most important predictor of satisfaction with sex, romance, and passion.<BR/><BR/>It's Not Complicated<BR/><BR/>Gottman believes the principles that make a marriage work are "surprisingly simple." Happily married couples aren't smarter or more beautiful than others, and they don't live in castles in the clouds where there's no conflict or negative feelings. They've simply learned to let their positive feelings about each other override their negative ones. They understand, honor, and respect each other. They know each other deeply and enjoy being together. They do little things every day to stay connected and to show each other they care. In short, they are friends.<BR/><BR/>As simple as it sounds, happy marriages are based on a foundation of friendship.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-46356099314540528592008-09-08T19:19:00.000-04:002008-09-08T19:19:00.000-04:00brilliantly written my far flung stranger friend. ...brilliantly written my far flung stranger friend. if Father gave you the fever. taupe and socks just to write this piece, He knew what He was doing.<BR/><BR/>one day we shall meet. i have officially put it on my list.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-45238055900160198902008-09-08T17:10:00.000-04:002008-09-08T17:10:00.000-04:00wow. that was so honest and beautifully written, ...wow. that was so honest and beautifully written, I think everyone I know would agree with your words, we've been there, we go there, it's so real. thank you & happy 14th! I hope your son is feeling better.amber {daisy chain}https://www.blogger.com/profile/18319294429035814508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11777429.post-58703633242870671632008-09-08T15:13:00.000-04:002008-09-08T15:13:00.000-04:00Thanks YOU! You make my heart dance! And thanks ...Thanks YOU! You make my heart dance! And thanks for the advise too! I sure did need a BOOST and reality check. xo xonataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08217067293718671958noreply@blogger.com